Saturday, January 31, 2015

February Feature: Candice McGruder






First off, let me begin by stating that what I am about to say is alsohttps://www.blogger.com/null aimed at myself, along with the rest of the body of Christ. I, like every single believer, needs to really, really examine themselves to make sure that they are still in the faith. 2 Corinthians 13:5

So, around 5 o’clock this morning, The Holy Spirit beckoned me to the throne of grace to pray. Now, I love to pray, I really do. I do it all the time, in fact. I pray daily because the Word tells us to Ephesians 6:18, and, I find that when I don’t, I become a mean little… Grinch? Yeah, I will use that word, Grinch. I find that when I do not press into the presence of God daily, throughout that day, I act extremely Grinchy. 

Now, before you nominate me for sainthood, you should inquire about the content of my prayers. That information is very vital to the rest of this piece. The content of my prayers are less centered around what the bible says to pray about, and more around… well, me. I pray for myself, I pray for my family, I pray for my daily needs, I pray for my friends, I pray for my wants, I pray for my Pastor, I pray for my bills to be paid, I pray for my Sorority, I pray for what Myself will eat; you see the trend here?  I am, like many American believers, very concerned about MY wellbeing, MY family, MY friends. I am very concerned with MYself.  So, when God woke me up to pray at 5:00 AM, I went down my check list of things to pray for and wondered why God woke me up an hour and a half before I needed to be awake. I was concerned about MY lack of sleep for MY job that day.  Silly willy Candice.

While at work, I was listening to my Jonathan McReynolds Pandora station, and like always, it was bomb. However, I began to notice a trend with the songs that were playing. They were playing songs about praying. Like, I am so serious. Nearly every song that played, was a song about praying. But not just regular, Candice type praying, no, but interceding.

DEFINTION BREAK: For those who don’t know the correct definition of interceding, please allow me to enlighten you. To intercede means to act or interpose in behalf of someone in difficulty or trouble, as by pleading or petition. I got this definition straight from dictionary.com.

I mean left and right, songs about intercession. William Murphy’s song called “I Prayed for You” , Yolanda Adams “Be Blessed” (which talks about praying for another person to be blessed). But, the song that really spoke to me was not really a song at all, but a plead from William McDowell. It was the Interlude to his song “Intercession”, and boy did it speak to me. In it, he is pleading with believers to set aside ourselves and to pray for the nations. He mentions how it takes faith not worry about our needs, but the needs of others. Faith, the kind that the Lilies of the field have that allows them to neither toil nor spin over what they will wear, and yet are dressed better than Solomon. Matthew 6:28-34

That is so real, beloved. SO super real. We as believers know that God is everything we need. In many passages of scripture He implores us not to worry, that we will be just fine. I know I am not very old, I am actually very young, but I have been walking with The Lord for quite some time, and I have yet to go hungry, yet to not have any clothes on my back, and yet to not have a place to lay my head. God has taken care of me, before I even knew to ask Him to! So why beloved, why, do we stress out, and worry about those things? Why?

With all that poverty that was around me growing up, I still ate, even if it was peas that my granddad grew and deer that he shot. I was still able to have a place to lay my head, even though we did move around a lot when I was little and lived in government housing some of my life. I still had clothes. I was still well taken care of. In Psalms 37 verse 25, the Palmist declares this “ I was young and now I am old, yet I have never seen the righteous forsaken or their children begging bread”. God is faithful to His word, yall. We don’t know how we made it but bless God that we did. That is exactly what I am talking about. God has NEVER forsaken us, and HE NEVER will. Hebrews 13:5

So, if we know these things, why do we continue to stress out about the past due light bill, or the late rent, and continue to harp God about the things He has already promised us, when there are people literally dying and going to HELL every day? When there are people who have yet to be touched by the Love of the Gospel? When there are people who fail to realize the return of Christ? Priorities beloved, priorities. What are we really spending our time praying about?

Now, am I saying that we are not supposed to pray for the things we need? No, I'm not saying that. But what I am saying is this: examine what it is you are spending your time praying on, and line it up with the Word of God. I mean if you are going to pester God about something, pester Him about the condition of the sinner’s soul, not your car note, or the delay in your “prince charming” ( If you cant say amen, ouch will be accepted).

God calls us to be ambassadors for Christ. 2 Corinthians 5:20 He calls us to stand in the gap, to make a plea on His behalf!  Are we really standing? Are we really doing what God has for us to do? Are we praying for others? Are we implementing the same mind that Christ had in ourselves? Philippians 2:5

So, I’m not really sure about you, but I would like to have the  type of faith to pray for someone else, instead of myself. I would like to do what God actually called me to do, and that is to stand in the gap and intercede for others! I want to be that light that Christ talks about in Matthew 5:14-16. Beloved, I make my appeal to you, as the body of Christ, lets stand and do what He actually has us here to do. Intercede yall, intercede. 




Peace, Love, and Joy
Candice Marie McGruder

-An Humble Servant of Christ











Tuesday, January 27, 2015

Some Kind of Wonderful???

There's a book out there called Lady in Waiting, a book on becoming a woman of God while waiting for Mr. Right.  One thing that stood out to me in this encouraging compilation was the subject of enabling.

en·abled en·abling

Full Definition of ENABLE

1
a :  to provide with the means or opportunity <training that enables people to earn a living>
b :  to make possible, practical, or easy <a deal that would enable passage of a new law>
c :  to cause to operate <software that enables the keyboard>
2
:  to give legal power, capacity, or sanction to <a law enabling admission of a state> 
What we are focusing on here is definition b: to make possible, practical or easy.
Why was this in a book about singleness? Well, watch this clip from the popular movie He's Just Not That Into You. The short haired woman is Gigi and the long haired woman is Janine.


Immediately after they hug Janine invites Gigi to look up places for a WEDDING! A stinking WEDDING! The guy has showed no interest in her besides these "signs" they claim to have seen.

Think about it. Do either of these women sound like someone you know? Maybe a close friend, family member or maybe even your mother?

Which one reminds you most of you?

And we Christian women are the WORST. Lol. Especially in this whole "that's my future husband" business. We are no less thirsty than we were beforehand except now we will dive into the covenant of marriage in our hearts quick because that's more "holy."

A lot of times in our walk with God we as single women are doing our very best to stay focused on pursuing and loving Jesus with all our hearts and that's when the enemy comes along with what we call a random. A random is someone who you KNOW God did not call you to be with but you date or "court" them anyway because of whatever reason. The enemy sends randoms to distract us, and sometimes he will even use our friend's harmless optimistic attitudes to aid in the process.

This harmless optimistic attitude would be that of your enabler. A friend of yours that you call when you meet a cute guy because you KNOW that whatever you say you saw, felt, or heard she will agree with you. She will encourage you to text him, talk with him. She will sit with you for hours and pick apart the conversation to look for clues that he is in fact madly in love with you. She will help you convince yourself that he is the one and the Lord will do it and to keep on praying and believing. And yes that dream means this and yes that look meant that. And I have to laugh because your sweet friend is just being herself: sweet, supportive, and on your team!

It's true she loves you! It's true she would do nothing to hurt you in a million years! And it's true that she has helped you into more trouble than anyone else because she upheld your emotions and not your God. And I've been there. I've been on both sides of this coin, and neither side is pretty. Most of my friends enabled me through life helping me believe that I would be next. Helping me believe that this is the one. Helping me see that he said one thing but really meant another. That is not cute!

I have learned my lesson! I'm not writing this post to dog your BFFL for enabling you. I'm writing this post for the enabler in all of us women who truly believe in love. I'm writing to remind us all to STOP dead in our tracks and PRAY before we agree to anything else, read anymore text messages, or listen to or participate in anymore over analyzing. Truth is, we don't know anything. Lol. Truth is, our friend wants someone to listen to her and we are so good at that. That's why we're friends. But at the end of the day she needs to be reminded that God is her source. That if this is the man for her God will give her clear direction.

So, please, be a good friend and a great sister in Christ and point your sister, lovingly, to Jesus and not to a man. As fun as it is as girls to gush about a guy with our friends, please save the gushing until it actually happens. Help your sister guard her heart and do not awaken love WAY before its time.

Try something different. When she calls or texts, say, let's pray! Cause girl you KNOW I'm no help in a situation like this; but God is help in all situations! If you know that man is not for her by prompting of the Holy Spirit tell her! Be led by God, not by the moment. Push her toward Jesus, not towards could be's and would be's. 

Let's stop enabling one another and stay FOCUSED.