en·abled en·abling
Full Definition of ENABLE
1
a : to provide with the means or opportunity <training that enables people to earn a living>
b : to make possible, practical, or easy <a deal that would enable passage of a new law>
c : to cause to operate <software that enables the keyboard>
2
: to give legal power, capacity, or sanction to <a law enabling admission of a state>
What we are focusing on here is definition b: to make possible, practical or easy.
Why was this in a book about singleness? Well, watch this clip from the popular movie He's Just Not That Into You. The short haired woman is Gigi and the long haired woman is Janine.
Immediately after they hug Janine invites Gigi to look up places for a WEDDING! A stinking WEDDING! The guy has showed no interest in her besides these "signs" they claim to have seen.
Think about it. Do either of these women sound like someone you know? Maybe a close friend, family member or maybe even your mother?
Which one reminds you most of you?
And we Christian women are the WORST. Lol. Especially in this whole "that's my future husband" business. We are no less thirsty than we were beforehand except now we will dive into the covenant of marriage in our hearts quick because that's more "holy."
A lot of times in our walk with God we as single women are doing our very best to stay focused on pursuing and loving Jesus with all our hearts and that's when the enemy comes along with what we call a random. A random is someone who you KNOW God did not call you to be with but you date or "court" them anyway because of whatever reason. The enemy sends randoms to distract us, and sometimes he will even use our friend's harmless optimistic attitudes to aid in the process.
This harmless optimistic attitude would be that of your enabler. A friend of yours that you call when you meet a cute guy because you KNOW that whatever you say you saw, felt, or heard she will agree with you. She will encourage you to text him, talk with him. She will sit with you for hours and pick apart the conversation to look for clues that he is in fact madly in love with you. She will help you convince yourself that he is the one and the Lord will do it and to keep on praying and believing. And yes that dream means this and yes that look meant that. And I have to laugh because your sweet friend is just being herself: sweet, supportive, and on your team!
It's true she loves you! It's true she would do nothing to hurt you in a million years! And it's true that she has helped you into more trouble than anyone else because she upheld your emotions and not your God. And I've been there. I've been on both sides of this coin, and neither side is pretty. Most of my friends enabled me through life helping me believe that I would be next. Helping me believe that this is the one. Helping me see that he said one thing but really meant another. That is not cute!
I have learned my lesson! I'm not writing this post to dog your BFFL for enabling you. I'm writing this post for the enabler in all of us women who truly believe in love. I'm writing to remind us all to STOP dead in our tracks and PRAY before we agree to anything else, read anymore text messages, or listen to or participate in anymore over analyzing. Truth is, we don't know anything. Lol. Truth is, our friend wants someone to listen to her and we are so good at that. That's why we're friends. But at the end of the day she needs to be reminded that God is her source. That if this is the man for her God will give her clear direction.
So, please, be a good friend and a great sister in Christ and point your sister, lovingly, to Jesus and not to a man. As fun as it is as girls to gush about a guy with our friends, please save the gushing until it actually happens. Help your sister guard her heart and do not awaken love WAY before its time.
Try something different. When she calls or texts, say, let's pray! Cause girl you KNOW I'm no help in a situation like this; but God is help in all situations! If you know that man is not for her by prompting of the Holy Spirit tell her! Be led by God, not by the moment. Push her toward Jesus, not towards could be's and would be's.
Let's stop enabling one another and stay FOCUSED.
This harmless optimistic attitude would be that of your enabler. A friend of yours that you call when you meet a cute guy because you KNOW that whatever you say you saw, felt, or heard she will agree with you. She will encourage you to text him, talk with him. She will sit with you for hours and pick apart the conversation to look for clues that he is in fact madly in love with you. She will help you convince yourself that he is the one and the Lord will do it and to keep on praying and believing. And yes that dream means this and yes that look meant that. And I have to laugh because your sweet friend is just being herself: sweet, supportive, and on your team!
It's true she loves you! It's true she would do nothing to hurt you in a million years! And it's true that she has helped you into more trouble than anyone else because she upheld your emotions and not your God. And I've been there. I've been on both sides of this coin, and neither side is pretty. Most of my friends enabled me through life helping me believe that I would be next. Helping me believe that this is the one. Helping me see that he said one thing but really meant another. That is not cute!
I have learned my lesson! I'm not writing this post to dog your BFFL for enabling you. I'm writing this post for the enabler in all of us women who truly believe in love. I'm writing to remind us all to STOP dead in our tracks and PRAY before we agree to anything else, read anymore text messages, or listen to or participate in anymore over analyzing. Truth is, we don't know anything. Lol. Truth is, our friend wants someone to listen to her and we are so good at that. That's why we're friends. But at the end of the day she needs to be reminded that God is her source. That if this is the man for her God will give her clear direction.
So, please, be a good friend and a great sister in Christ and point your sister, lovingly, to Jesus and not to a man. As fun as it is as girls to gush about a guy with our friends, please save the gushing until it actually happens. Help your sister guard her heart and do not awaken love WAY before its time.
Try something different. When she calls or texts, say, let's pray! Cause girl you KNOW I'm no help in a situation like this; but God is help in all situations! If you know that man is not for her by prompting of the Holy Spirit tell her! Be led by God, not by the moment. Push her toward Jesus, not towards could be's and would be's.
Let's stop enabling one another and stay FOCUSED.
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